My Little Bro Is Married!

On May 25th, 2013 my little brother married his best friend. How lucky I am to  have such a great brother, and now a sister. It was such a great day watching the two of them interact as husband and wife. The day was full of laughter, smiles, hugs, and lots of dancing (especially on my part, LOVE dancing) as we celebrating the joinging of these two lives.

I could go into details of the event but instead I have decided to post my "Sister of the Groom Speech". Hope you enjoy and get a sense of the appreciation and admiration I have for my little bro and his new wife!

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Good Evening,  

For those of you who haven’t yet picked up on who I am, I’m Devon’s sister April. The one who pops in from time to time from the east coast.

When I look back on childhood with Devon I am reminded of the gift he has been to me. Even if we would pull at each other’s hair, hit, sit on, or bite each other from time to time, life would have been pretty lonely without him. One of my most memorable moments with Devon is when my friend and I took advantage of  him and his best bud Patrick's boredom and dressed them up as girls…. which was naturally followed by us parading them up and down the street ringing people’s door bells in order to introduce them to Patricia and Devina (you may have seen the photos in the slide show). To this day I have no clue why they agreed, but I guess they just admired their sisters so much that they’d do anything to spend time with us. Or entertain us? Either way it makes for a juicy memory.

I admire my brother for many reasons. He’s a good judge of character, wise and very loyal. 

I also consider him to be the funny one in the family. Whether he was trying to say something funny or just being his quirky self,  like trying on a piece of clothing as soon as he opens it, checking himself out in the mirror and then returning to ask us about 5 times each if we think it fits him properly, (good luck with that steph) we always seemed to get a good laugh. In particular, Devon has always enjoyed teasing me any chance he gets, so at a very young age I learned that as an older sister it is important to understand that my brother is probably bugging me so much because he wants to be like me. Even if he’s being mean to me the fact that he’s paying attention to me at all means that he wants to be around me, I guess you must like me quite a bit eh bro?

I also admire Devon’s determination. As soon as he asks his millions of questions, analyzes all possible options, and makes up his mind there is no turning back.– heck, the kid taught himself to play guitar!   

And now, he’s chosen himself a bride.

Which leads me to Stephanie. Steph, how excited I am to finally be able to say that I have a sister. It’s been such a joy getting to know you over the past 7 years. It says a lot that when I come home I look forward to seeing you as much as I do the rest of my family. It just wouldn’t be family without you being around. You have such a kind heart, good sense of humor, and you always make a point to spend time with me when I come - which has meant a lot. I can see how you bring out the best in my brother and this week in particular has been a blessing as I’ve been able to watch the love you two share, the godly character growth in each of you and how you look out for each other in the big and small things. You clearly are the best friends. You tell each other every last secret and he has complete trust and admiration for you. And like I said, he’s as loyal as they come so you are definitely stuck with him for life ;)

Devon, it’s not been an easy thing having to miss out on moments of your life over the past 8 years. However, you’ve made it more bearable by always saying, “It’s good to have you home sis” and taking the time to have a good chat either before bed, in the morning as you get ready for work and I’m just awakening, or on the phone when I’m at a distance. I never doubt for a moment that I’m not cared for by you and expect nothing more or less.  

Devon you are a a wise, fun loving, responsible young man and I am so honored to be able to be here to congratulate you and your beautiful wife Stephanie on your long awaited wedding day.

Devon and Steph, May the Lord Bless you and keep you. May his face shine upon you and be gracious to you and may you always love each other as He has loved you. 

Please join me in a toast to the beautiful bride, my sister-in-law and to the handsome groom, my brother.  

Funny thing speeches are...but I am thankful for the way they provide me with a moment to say things I don't say enough and to reflect aspects of my loved ones that I don't reflect on enough . I sure do love this guy and miss him dearly. 

 

What is blogging?

What is blogging? I've recently find myself deep into this question as I work on an assignment for my Self-Care and Wellness class. My assignment is to choose a topic related to ways of promoting self-care in counsellors. The topic of blogging came up as an option and I suddenly became curious to gain a better understanding of what exactly blogging is, why people blog and what the benefits might be. How can it be used as a form of self care? How is it different from that of creative writing or writing in a journal? And how does having an audience change the experience?

In researching blogging I have discovered that first off, there isn't a lot of research on how it can be a form of self-care for Counsellors. However, many people have found blogging to be a useful form of therapy. Many have said that blogging has caused them to clarify their thoughts rather than just ramble on and on like they would in a journal. It has been a way to see themselves in a mirror and reflect on how they, and their thoughts, might be perceived. It is also a way of finding support and community with those who understand where you are coming from. You feel, in a way, like you are giving back by being vulnerable with your thoughts as others do the same. Some research even states that it is a way for young adults to work on their social skills. To see the value in vulnerability and honesty with others, and although it may begin by blogging to an unknown audience eventually it may play out in relationships in day to day life.

The strongest point was found in a study where they asked smokers to try blogging as a way to potentially quit smoking. Although the bloggers did not end up quitting smoking, they did end up focusing on the process of making life changes. Blogging caused them to reflect upon their life and how they were living. One in particular realized how she was glorifying the act of smoking through her blog photos and descriptions of the relief she felt while smoking. She realized this did not match up with her true feelings on smoking: that it is a bad habit, unhealthy and that she wants to quit. So she began focusing and glorifying things in life that she did admire, like nature: taking pictures of "the lungs of the earth" (trees). All this said, there was a focus change from thinking about why she smoked, when she got the cravings, what it meant to her to the process of making life changes. Pretty powerful I would say. All it takes is a little reflective space to see that maybe how your living is not how you want to live and that you have the ability to recognize and change these things if you'd just take the time to be present and reflect on it throughout the day/week/month/year. Many found that they'd suddenly took on the daily reflective stance of, "Oh, I could blog about this."

Needless to say there is much to be said about the act of blogging. It can be done in so many different ways and provides different things for different people. For some it is a way to promote themselves and maybe their work, others find it gives them a voice, and some use it purely to reflect on life, to process what comes their way and find support to get through. For me, well I've once again just entered into the blogging world but as I write about something I've learned I find it energizing to share my knowledge with others. It kind of makes me feel a little smarter, builds confidence in acknowledging that "Hey, I do know stuff!", and it's nice to know that time spent researching something has not gone to waste. I also appreciate how blogging helps me to compartmentalize whats been learned and should be shared.

But realistically a blog can be whatever you want it to be. So, blog on fellow bloggers!